The Psychology of Faith in Jesus

 HANDLING OFFENCE (II)

Hi there! This post is continued from the last. We shared what offence is and what is advisable not to do when handling offence. In this post, we would be concluding with a few more tips. 

The process of handling offence can take a short or long time, depending on the circumstances surrounding it.

 “Forgive them for yourself. When someone hurts you, they take the power over you; you don’t forgive them? They keep the power. Forgive them, and then forgive yourself”. – Cicely Tyson

Forgiveness is undoubtedly one of the toughest things to do because you are not just angry at the situation or person but also angry at yourself for making mistakes. However, we have to understand first of all that

1. We have been forgiven by God and He loves us regardless. He always has the best in mind for us ( Jeremiah 29:11)
2. Constantly beating ourselves up or guilt tripping the other party will do us no good but only harm us further. You won’t gain anything from it.
3. Holding on constantly to offence will only keep us from growing and achieving our goals because you will stay longer in self-pity and regret, than you are conscious of. You will waste time unnecessarily and before you know it, you have not really gained from life.
4. No one is worth wasting emotions and energy on, keep reminding yourself that you alone are responsible for your emotions. You can choose to either respond or react.

 

Lastly, Burning bridges: Like I said earlier, relationships are very very important. When God wants to bless a man, He uses people. People are your greatest assets. It is important to:

1. Make peace with all men: even if a relationship with a friend, a partner, a colleague or family member ends; it is important to do it as neatly as you can. Never burn bridges. It is the best because of your own sanity. You will also end up being accountable to God.
2. You can Love from a distance. Always see people as a gift from God but if the situation is toxic and getting too detrimental to your health (emotionally, physically, financially), peace, wellness, wholeness or it is even life threatening! PLEASE, LEAVE AND GET HELP AFTER. 
3. Lastly, remember forgiveness does not necessarily make you obligated to continue associating with the person. It just means, you let go of that thing holding you back for. Then ask God to help you walk in love and forgiveness. It is definitely a good way to experience freedom.